After reading my blog about The Joys of Not Having To Date, a friend of mine responded by asking, "When dating, should you date around or date one at a time?". I've been scratching my head on that one-trying to figure out a nice, politically correct answer.I even tried channeling my inner "church girl" to come up with a good answer...but to no avail. Some things, like dating, are best when you are up front, open, and honest.
When I started dating for the first time, all I heard from my grandparents, aunts, and uncles was ridicule. In their eyes, all young folks were evil and confused. And they could never understand why Johnny from down the street just didn't do it for me. What was wrong with marrying Johnny after college? After all, he was gonna be a DOCTOR (gagging on my spoon here). Why couldn't I just be happy with Johnny and leave all the other boys alone. "CUZ JOHNNY IS BORING", I wanted to shout, "AND HIS BREATH ALWAYS SMELLS LIKE CHEETOS!" Leaving my options open was a great choice.
Modern day dating to me has turned into a rat race where everyone is trying to out-do each other, and trying to reinvent themselves into something they are not, or never were. On your first date you don't meet the person you are destined to be with, you meet their representative. And they usually have on their Sunday Best, while the guy you end up marrying has holes in his drawers and is missing his front teeth. In the worst cases, we end up going on dates with their "representative", and not meeting Mr. Johnny Cheeto breath until after we have walked down the alter to the pathway to hell. Dating in the old days seemed a little different to me. You knew very well in advance that the man you were about to marry only had one good mule, and his last wife had died leaving him with 3 REALLY bad kids-and maybe you still married him anyway. These days you are more likely to not really know just what you are getting into. The Game has truly changed.